tammy are you currently delighted now? Yes i’ve tried keep in touch with him , absolutely cant reach him. At me or laughs at me, is absolutely never moved by me if I cry he is either angry. I have wondered if he could be a bit psychotic. Is a total sweetheart often. Do I like him? Yes although not into the detriment of my psychological wellness. I think we now have a extremely bad relationship.
These episodes happen about when an and last a week month.
I will be pleased as we have always been now, its difficult being a solitary mum but i dont regret my choice. the one thweng i can recommend is you need to do what exactly is perfect for your self as well as your young ones. if you are unhappy, your kids wont be. exp constantly complained that dd should have an effective household (as him being together) but i wasnt going to spend the rest of my life unhappy in me and. besides i was raised with no dad, and I also think we proved fine. as well as its perhaps perhaps perhaps not although he doesnt exactly much of an effort in my opinion like he cant see dd.
i dont really understand what else to recommend regularhiding.
or theres counselling, but we do not understand if that will be of every help
regularhiding, I really feel at you when you are crying (my ex did this to me a lot) for you and know what it’s like to have your partner laugh.
Could I simply state that I think these nasty streaks could get to be much more and more regular which is not good as they will sense a tension in the air) for you to feel you have to walk on eggshells (or the children.
You will find 2 things that you might do. First, the next occasion he threatens to keep, call their bluff and simply tell him «there is the home». The main reason we state this will be he understands you think you cannot live without him in which he is playing about this (sorry however the expression «power journey» comes to mind). Or you might decide to try asking him why he seems the requirement to be nasty for you, but we have the sensation this will either get laughed at or end it all on you with him being in a sh**ty mood/blaming.
Should you choose believe that truly the only explanation you might be with him is you feel you mightn’t cope alone, then please know that yes you are able to cope alone and therefore he could be revelling when you look at the undeniable fact that they can treat you the way he likes since you could not keep him. I’m sure this from very first hand connection with my ex. He additionally thought i really couldn’t cope without him around (therefore did we for quite some time) but he got a surprise when their energy trips backfired on him and I also took my DS1 and relocated 500 kilometers to have far from him.
I am sorry if i have overstepped the mark or before he started hitting me that you feel I am being too harsh on your husband but what he is doing to you sounds a lot like what my ex was doing to me not long
sorry to know this, regularhiding. I think hiddenspirit’s post makes a complete large amount of feeling, unfortunately.
This noises, at the least, like emotional punishment if you ask me. When you say these episodes happen once per month and final for per week, maybe you have noticed every other pattern growing? Can there be any such thing which generally seems to trigger them?
The worrying thing is the fact that there *is* violence, not fond of you – yet. Perchance you have to seek help that is professional. You could try talking to your gp to start with curves connect review if he won’t go.
Positively think you have got a nagging issue here. Concur that if it keeps on like this he might well get violent in your direction or even the children too. Indicate a diary is kept by you of incidents and precisely what happens into the run as much as them. Take to writing it from his viewpoint and from yours. Should allow you to exercise exactly exactly what their reasoning is and whether you’re willing to live along with it all or otherwise not. That he needs help if he won’t speak to you perhaps he’ll at least read what you’ve written and come to realise. For the time being I would personally form bullying into google to see what can be done to avoid your self being bullied. Additionally look up domestic punishment. Allow it keep on and you should lose your children’ respect along with your very own self self- self- self- confidence. Wonder if it is a response to your AF or something like that regular at the job? Whatever, he can not act in that way. You CAN manage without him!